It’s mah birthday!
If you haven’t guessed by the title of my post, I’m hitting the big 3-3! Whoop!!
And by “party”, I mean “take a nap”.
But first, here are some throwback photos:
Try not to die from all my cuteness, lol.
Every year on my birthday, I take time to reflect on how far I’ve come, and how truly blessed I am to have had so many opportunities in my life.
This year, my reflections have led me to this conclusion:
Throughout these past 33 years, I’ve had ups & downs, known failure & success, and have felt the joy of love, and the agony of loss. And as cliché as it sounds, I’ve been forever changed by it all.
Today, I wish to share with you 33 things that I’ve learned by age 33: the good, the bad, and the ridiculous.
33 Things I’ve Learned By Age 33
1.) TAKE NOTHING FOR GRANTED. Live in the moment, and love for today. Tomorrow it can all change.
2.) BEING ALONE DOESN’T MEAN YOU’RE LONELY. Take time for yourself; travel alone & dine out alone. You’ll find it can be truly liberating.
3.) NEVER LET OTHER’S OPINIONS OF YOU BE YOUR OPINION OF YOURSELF. I can’t say this enough. Know your own worth, whether others see it or not.
4.) IT’S OKAY TO BE DIFFERENT. Variety is the spice of life!
5.) HAVE CONVICTION IN WHAT YOU BELIEVE TO BE TRUE, AND ACCEPT THAT THAT “TRUTH” WON’T ALWAYS BE RIGHT. Don’t be ignorant, and educate yourself in all things.
6.) AGREE TO DISAGREE. Everyone has an opinion, and should be entitled to it. It’s unrealistic to think that we will always be on the same page.
7.) IT’S NEVER TOO LATE TO START OVER. An old dog can absolutely learn new tricks.
8.) SOMETIMES YOU HAVE TO WALK IN THE RAIN TO LEARN HOW TO WEATHER THE STORM. What doesn’t kill you makes you stronger.
9.) MARCH TO THE BEAT OF YOUR OWN DRUM. Can’t nobody tell me nothin’. I’m gonna keep on doing what I do how I choose to do it.
10.) SOMETIMES, YOUR HEART CAN LEAD YOU ASTRAY. Sometimes, it’s too good to be true.
11.) YOU’LL NEVER KNOW IF YOU NEVER TRY. Mind over matter.
12.) LOVE CAN HURT, AND LOVE CAN HEAL. Whether that be romantic, platonic, or familial love, know it has the power to do both.
13.) THERE’S NO PLACE LIKE HOME. And yes, home is where the heart is. So wherever that may be, there’s nothing else in the world like it.
14.) THERE ACTUALLY IS SUCH A THING AS “TOO MANY BOOKS”. This can be remedied with MORE BOOKSHELVES.
15.) A SCREENSHOT IS THE DEVIL’S CLOUD STORAGE. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again! Beware of everything you post, text, and publish!
16.) THERE IS NO GREATER PAIN THAN THAT OF THE LOSS OF A LOVED ONE. There’s not a day that goes by that I don’t think about them. It doesn’t hurt any less with each passing day.
17.) SAY WHAT YOU MEAN, AND MEAN WHAT YOU SAY. Don’t be a hypocrite, yo.
18.) CHICKEN SOUP FOR THE SOUL? NAH, TACOS WILL DO JUST FINE. Need I say more?
19.) IF THE STRESS WON’T QUIT, I SHAN’T COMMIT. It’s no secret that I’m a commitment-phobe. However, if ever I’m in a situation that I find is bringing me stress/anxiety, know I’m gone, son. Life’s too short to be uncomfortable.
20.) FRIENDS WILL NEVER LET YOU DOWN, BUT IF THEY DO, LET THEM GO. <–Bye Felicia. Don’t surround yourself with toxic relationships.
21.) TREAT YOURSELF. Make time for yourself, and make time for more tacos.
22.) EMBRACE YOUR MISTAKES. Learn from each one, and regret nothing. Unless your mistake was not eating enough tacos. In which case, regret that shiz.
23.) MONOPOLY IS THE DEVIL. R.I.P. Many Friendships.
24.) YOU REAP WHAT YOU SOW. Cause and effect. For every action, there will be a reaction, so be prepared for it.
25.) YOU CAN’T PLEASE EVERYONE. Bye Felicia.
26.) DON’T EAT THAT CUPCAKE. Said no one ever. Eat that mutha effin’ cupcake. Do it. IT’S DELICIOUS.
27.) SEE THE FOREST FOR THE TREES. Take a moment to look at things from a broader perspective; see the bigger picture. You may find that everything will fall into place.
28.) EVERYBODY POOPS. And it’s okay to talk about it. If you’re going to be friends with me, know that poop talk comes with the territory. Sorry not sorry!
29.) ROALD DAHL IS MAGIC. Before J.K. Rowling monopolized my 20’s, Roald monopolized my youth. His books compelled me, inspired me, and uplifted me. They made me believe in my own brand of magic; I felt like I was able to wield the greatest power of all: KNOWLEDGE. Matilda was the first book I remember reading that left me feeling empowered, and made me feel comfortable in my own skin. My childhood wasn’t all sunshine & daisies, so having an escape in the form of his books was something that I will always look back on with the fondest of memories.
30.) MY PARENTS ARE MY HEROES. Let me tell you a little bit about them: My mother came to this country (from Brazil) without the ability to speak English. She taught herself to not only speak it, but to read & write it. She raised me to be proud of who I am, to work hard, and to love without abandon. My father became the ‘man of the house’ at a very young age by helping out his mother, and by being a father figure to his sisters. He later went on to become one of the first African-American men to receive the highest form of priesthood in the LDS church, and was able to serve a mission in Brazil, which eventually led him to cross paths with my mother. My father has stood tall in the face of adversity, and has shown me what it’s like to have patience, faith, and humility. Without them, I wouldn’t be who I am today.
31.) MY SELF-WORTH ISN’T MEASURED BY A NUMBER ON A SCALE. I am who I am, and I’ve learned to love myself both inside and out. It’s quite liberating to be able to look beyond societal conformity.
32.) TIME WAITS FOR NO ONE. Don’t let it pass you by. Take advantage of every moment.
33.) DO WHATEVER MAKES YOU HAPPY. Unless murdering people makes you happy…don’t do that. But in all seriousness, don’t be afraid to take risks. Never be ashamed of what makes you happy (unless it’s illegal, lol).
So there you have it. Here’s to another wonderful year, and I plan to make the most of it!
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